The Most Powerful Way To Deal With Self-Criticism

Self-Criticism
My dear children, let’s not just talk about love; let’s practice real love.
This is the only way we’ll know we’re living truly, living in God’s reality.
It’s also the way to shut down debilitating self-criticism, even when there is something to it.
For God is greater than our worried hearts and knows more about us than we do ourselves.
1 John 3:18–20 MSG

Brandon Getting Award

Brandon Getting an Award for High Volume Sales in 2016 at the age of 23! Can you say #proudmommabear 🙂

My son Brandon is an amazing salesman.

Over the past five years working for my parents, he’s expanded their business astronomically. At 25, they’re already working on a plan for Brandon to take over the business.

If you know my dad at all, you know what a BIG deal it is for him to hand over the reins!

Brandon loves the thrill of the sale and making his customers happy.

Recently, Brandon called completely excited to tell me about a deal he just made on a trailer sale. A previous customer contacted him in a very difficult situation, having just experienced a personal disaster. Brandon‘s heart was moved with compassion.

When he called the customer back and told them how he could work things out, the customer actually cried, thanking him repeatedly. At that point, I asked, “Isn’t the feeling you get helping someone else out as good, if not better than the feeling you get making a big money deal?” Brandon’s response, “Absolutely mom, absolutely.”

The Most Powerful Way To Deal With Self-Criticism

In this epistle, John imparts such wisdom when he educates believers about God’s love towards us and how we benefit by sharing that love with others.  In this week’s verses, John shares how loving each other…the art of practicing real, honest, sincere love towards others will even help defeat those internal negative, condemning thoughts of self-criticism we often struggle to place on mute. Basically…

Helping Others Helps Us

How can you honestly criticize yourself and say you’re not a good person,
or that your life doesn’t count when you’re doing good things for others?

Just as my son’s experience at work and his involvement with 100 Guys Who Care Brantford reveal,

It’s an exhilarating feeling when you help others!

Brandon helping others

Brandon helping others

Like putting arrows in a quiver; helping others gives you something to throw back at the enemy when he detonates those negative, self-critical thought bombs off in your brain.

So, if you struggle with self-esteem issues, the advice given in 1 John 3:20 could be the best coping mechanism for you today…. get out of your brain and go help someone in need!

Prayer

Father…Your love is so good! Just when I think I understand how much You love me, I learn there’s a deeper well then I ever imagined.  It takes a lifetime to grasp Your love. Help me to silence self-doubt with Your love as I spend my time helping others; not introspectively criticizing myself because…YOU love ME! In Jesus Name…Amen

Drawing From The Well - Wide

Will you indulge me? I’m hoping you’ll soak in this verse a little.  I found it interesting to compare these verses in different translations and I hope you do.  Bible Gateway is an easy way to look up Scriptures online, I love the YouVersion Bible App for my phone to look up verses, highlight and listen to the Bible read out to me in many versions.  I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Bible Hub for looking deeper into the original meaning of Scripture and other helpful tools they have.

Compare these verses in different versions. I found these versions help bring a different deeper understanding to what John was teaching:  NIV, NLT, The Message, GOD’S WORD ® Translation

1 John 3:18-20    BIBLE HUB   BIBLE GATEWAY–THE FOUR SIDE-BY-SIDE


Soul H2O BookIf you liked the refreshing in this #SoulH2O devotion, you’ll love my latest Soul H2O Devotional book: 40 Thirst Quenching Devotions for Women.

Here’s a link to the group Brandon is a part of, but they have these groups all over North America. I would suggest googling “100 Guys Who Care Your Town/City Name” to find the closest chapter to you.
100 Guys Who Care Brantford


blogger prayerYOU CAN OFTEN FIND ME LINKING UP WITH:
MONDAY
 Monday Meditations – Laura J. Davis, Soul Survival – Donna Reidland,
TUESDAY Cheerleaders of Faith #RARaLinkup – Kelly Balarie,
WEDNESDAY Coffee For Your Heart – Holley GerthWord Nerd Wednesdays — Liz Giertz
THURSDAY Heart Encouragement Thursday – Crystal Storms, Chasing Community  Barbara Bradford Ottinger
FRIDAY Dance With Jesus Linkup – Susan B. MeadGrace and Truth Linkup – Arabah JoyCounting My Blessings – Deb Wolf, Fresh Market Friday – Crystal Twaddell ELLEN’S PICKS– Ellen Graf-Martin 

Comments(5)

  1. Lori says

    Thanks for the great reminder about helping others. The more we think about others, the less we think about ourselves as being more important!

    • Sherry Stahl says

      You got it girl!
      Love ya,
      ~Sherry

  2. Ilene says

    Hey there would you mind sharing which blog platform you’re working with?
    I’m going to start my own blog in the near future but I’m having a tough time selecting between BlogEngine/Wordpress/B2evolution and Drupal.
    The reason I ask is because your layout seems different then most blogs and I’m looking for something completely unique.
    P.S Apologies for being off-topic but I had to ask!

    • Sherry Stahl says

      Austin,
      I’m using WordPress and the Template is called Adore Church, but I think my former webmaster formatted my blog page to be how I wanted it. Best of luck in your new endeavor!
      ~Sherry

    • Sherry Stahl says

      On Monday I’m announcing a Flash Sale for the Genius Blogger’s Toolkit. It’s super helpful in getting a blog going. You may want to purchase it? Check back on Monday for the link. The Flash Sale is ONLY on Monday and Tuesday. This package has been the most help for me in Blogging.
      Sherry

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